Make it safe

 This is a learning process, and I'm learning!

A safe space.

I need to make it safe for the child before we settle into working. 

I watched the other day as I tried to start a process, and realized after the first couple of sentences that nothing was going to get through. His shoulders were hunched, his face sullen, and his anger towards the sibling in question was evident.

We had to work through that first. 

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